the can’t motivator

Isn’t the word ‘can’t’ only found in the dictionary of fools? I think it was Henry Ford who said, “Whether you think you can or you can’t…you’re right.” If we can’t handle the truth…why are we asking people to be honest? We might want to try being so GOOD that you can’t ignored….hmmmmmmmm…maybe we should stop letting what we can’t do interfere with what we can do. Is our biggest mistake caring whether we can or can’t please everyone? Ok want to know what you can’t do? You can’t stop a smile from forming at something funny, you can’t download time and you can’t believe everything that google says. Is it an awkward moment of truth when you buy into NIKE’s famous line and realize you ‘just can’t do it?’ What did Bob Dylan mean when he said we can’t be wise and in love at the same time? Stoopid Love? If we were having java with Margaret Mead she would say, “Never believe that a few caring people can’t change the world, for indeed that’s all who ever did.” Well supersize my latte. If we can’t make something good shouldn’t we at least make it taste good? What’s up with that proverb, “You can’t have your cake and eat it too?” I think we should eat the cake because it’s somebody’s birthday somewhere in this world of over 7 billion.  I just can’t wrap my head around can’t…if someone tells me i can’t do something…well…ummmmmm…let’s just say i will show them over and over and over that i can. PIF.

BE the message

Where did the phrase, “Don’t shoot the messenger” originate? …and does this solve the problem? When we resort to attacking the messenger and not the message don’t we lose on all counts? Should we start before we’re ready? Fail fast? Push boundaries? Why can’t we be a traditionalist and a rebel? Which is more important…the messenger or the message? Perhaps we may reconsider delivering a message and just BE the message…hmmmmmmmm…can a smile BE the message? Ok let’s rachelize…’When all else fails, smile.’ PIF


i don’t care

i’ve reached a dangerously awesome milestone in my life…i just don’t care what people think of me….unless they think I’m awesome and then they’re…well…ummmmmm…right. The thing is i don’t even care that i don’t care. Perhaps it’s that i don’t care what people think because they don’t think? Maybe it’s those ‘i don’t care’ socks that i put on…like TED stockings, you know the ones that support your legs? Thinking the “i don’t care” attitude is good for my mental health. When people treat you like they don’t care shouldn’t we believe them? When I’m quiet are the only ones who hear me the ones that care about me? Perhaps I might quantify statistically what I mean…I’m 97% sure you don’t like me and i’m 100% sure i don’t care. Is this some sort of ‘i don’t care’ snobbery? Is the root of all stress our pursual of things that we really don’t care about? Working to maintain hooty falooty titles? Thinking I have a simple cure for title-itis…don’t use them. Wouldn’t that be so refreshing, everyone known for who they are inside. It’s kind of an oxymoron, we speak of not labelling people and yet we define ourselves with labels? i really don’t care what your title is…i’m looking at how you perform towards those who can do nothing for you. On the lighter side of i don’t care…i don’t care how old i am, when i see a bubble i will always hunt it down and pop it. When my children say, “race you” i will always run that race…hmmmmmmm…time to wrap this up. At the end of the day i don’t care what people think or say about me, i know who i am. PIF.

the power of power

Does power corrupt people or do people corrupt power? Is the way to have power…to take it? Is the real power of a man in the size of the smile of the woman sitting next to him? Is determination power? Lao Tzu has said, “Mastering others is strength, mastering self is true power.” Martin Luther proclaimed…”Our scientific power has outrun our spiritual power…” hmmmmmmm…are we too smart for our own good? According to Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Before we acquire great power we must acquire wisdom to use it well.” …but Mr. smartypants Einstein said that the combination of wisdom and power has rarely been successful..this is a little disconcerting….have we given power a bad reputation? Does not great power come with the price tag of great responsibility? I’m thinking Plato nailed it, “The measure of a man is what he does with power.”  Do we give up our power by thinking we have none? Perhaps power distilled down may be defined as the ability to make things happen without violating the rights of others…Let’s listen to some Hendrix…”When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.”  I don’t know about you, but i’m looking up for my source of power. PIF.

the silly thing about silly

John Lennon once said, “It’s weird not to be weird.” Does being weird make you a limited edition? Weird a side effect of being awesome? My daughter told me the other day, “mommy, i love you because you’re silly and smart.” Time to get your sillyness on because according to a child, you can be both…hmmmmmm…reading Dr. Seuss is so validating, “We are all a little weird, and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” Thinking as adults we might want to read more children’s books to put life in perspective….and while we’re on this crazy tangent, have a child give us our ‘performance reviews’ yearly. Wouldn’t it be so strange yet refreshing? Isn’t there power in not caring that you look silly? Not to put therapists out of business or anything, but, perhaps all we need is a good friend to be silly with on a regular basis. Eureka…I’ve found the perfect business…rent my children out for a good ole silly time. Ok…seriously…I think we could sum this absurd post to this, the best things in life really are silly. PIF.


Seems to be a whole lotta dying going on lately…or so it seems if you are a rock star or celebrity of some sort. But, according to the world population clock, there have been approximately 156,500 deaths today alone. OK so if our time is limited shouldn’t we stop living the results of other people’s thinking? Don’t fear death, fear a life unlived?  We might want to make a mental note of the fact that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something and  has lost something. Oscar Wilde once said, “Ridicule is the tribute paid to the genius by the mediocrities” …hmmmm that sounds kinda harsh, but I like it. The simple truth is this, we can make any given day more beautiful when kindness touches it.Perhaps the true tragedy of life is not death but what we let die inside us while we are alive? Oh, if we could be heroes for just one day, even under all this pressure, pushing down on us. Doesn’t floating around in a tin can sound appealing? Maybe we should all just put on our red shoes and dance…RIP to all the world…PIF.

i bought a van

Who would have thought a car accident would become a blessing? Life lesson #452 always keep your head up, because if it’s always down looking at your phone you won’t be able to see all the blessings around you…maybe we should talk of blessings more than we complain about our problems. Helen Keller said, “the struggle of life was a blessing”..huh? Oscar Wilde even said,“Trials are blessings in disguise.” So let me get this straight…every burden is a blessing? What’s going on here? Are the things that count the most in life, the things that cannot be counted? People come into your life as a blessing or a lesson? Buddha said, “Every experience no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind, the goal is to find it.” Does the blessing equation involve subtraction or addition? Ok maybe we shouldn’t stop at counting our blessings…take it a step further and BE the blessing that people need. Ok, I know we make a living by what we get but we make a life by what we give. Let’s simplify even further…we may not have everything we want, but we are blessed in having everything we need.
P.S. Thank you Bay King Chrysler for BEing the blessing…

if your world falls

I believe the world is one big family…and we all need to help each other. Charles Dickens once said, “No one is useless who lightens the burdens of others.”   Success not measured with what you gain or accomplish for yourself…it’s what you do for others? …hmmmmmmmmm…did we derail that train? Maybe we could start by simply creating happy for others.  Gandhi reminded us how to best find ourselves, “…lose yourself in the service of others.” Ok I’m not that naive…I know that helping someone will not necessarily change the world, but it does change the world for that person. Do we really need a reason to help someone? Isn’t this when kindness walks in? This is not complicated…do what you can, where you are with what you have. Something is wrong…did we forget what we learned in kindergarten? Mother Teresa was never concerned about numbers, just started with one person at a time…always starting with the one nearest to her. Thinking we should keep our eyes wide open…look for the helper-outers…and start a riot. PIF.

Feardom Fighters

Have we gotten this fear thing all confused? Are we really afraid of the dark…or what’s in it? Are we really afraid of heights…or afraid of falling? Marianne Williamson tells us “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” Wait what? Are we living our fears or our dreams? Somebody please supersize my opposite of fear…which is what exactly…freedom? It’s been said the cave you fear to entre, holds the treasure you seek…hmmmmmmmm…is fear a product of the thoughts I create? Is fear a choice? F.E.A.R  Forget Everything And Run? or Face Everything And Rise? Can fear and happy cohabitate? Is fear simply stories we tell ourselves? Franklin Roosevelt said in his first inaugural speech, “The only thing we should fear is fear itself.” So do we fear the unknown or what we think we know about the unknown? Is then courage resistance to fear? So like maybe we should take every chance and drop every fear. Maybe fear may be distilled to this: Nothing in life is to be feared…It is to be understood. OK…repeat after me, “I expect nothing…I fear no one…I am free.” Thinking that historic hippie era was on to something…freedom…expression…rebellion. What has fear done to us all? At the end of the day, our greatest fear should not be failure, rather, succeeding in life at things that don’t really matter. Get your freedom on. PIF.


Hide & Seek

What is it that we all need? Are we beginning the realization that this world can be kinda overwhelming? Oprah has said, “What God has intended for you goes far beyond anything you imagined.” Who believes this? Does grace change the rules in the game of life? Fortunately God doesn’t keep score like humans do…hmmmmmmm…does anyone really comprehend the mystery of grace? This is what I do know, it meets us where we are and does not leave use where it found us. Which is more important…ascending or descending the mountain? Is this the gigantic lesson of Life? How we accept winning & losing…good luck…bad luck…darkness…light. Do we think our mistakes tally up? Even the Goethe has something to say about grace, “Whatever you think you can do or believe you can do, begin it. For action has magic and grace in it.” Do we spend an unending focus on our iphones? Perhaps we may want to unravel the mystery of grace. Maybe we should give grace because we ALL so desperately need it. Has the human race all become victims to grace? Every Life ransomed, the broken & worthless restored…everything redeemable? WOW…could this be the answer? Grace? Can we not be the bridge to helping people find HOPE? Mother Theresa reminded us, “We can do no great things, we can only do small things with great Love.” We may want to start holding one another to a standard of grace rather than perfection. Is grace the outward expression of the inward harmony of the soul? Is grace undeserved kindness? All I can say is this, in my house we do second chances, we do grace, we do REAL, we do mistakes, we do I’m sorry’s, we do loud really well, we do hugs, we do family, we do prayer, we do faith, and we do LOVE. Look UP. PIF.